Social skills training is like building a clubhouse. You have to start with the foundation and end with trim and paint. If you reverse the order, you have a mess. Our plan is to build upon a foundation so that our club members integrate their skills into their daily lives and become more connected social beings.

Casey’s Clubhouse is a 30-lesson journey for your child that builds upon six umbrella skills and five rotating approaches to training. Because social skills are complex, we layered the six umbrella skills from what we have found to be the most essential skills like energy regulation to the most complex skills like interpersonal mastery. As we continue to use, reinforce, and teach the first skill, we introduce and teach the second skills. The six umbrella skills are:

Regulation – The ability to identify and set your energy, emotions, thoughts, and behaviors in an effort to regulate to improve social success.
Mindfulness – The ability to become consciously aware your energy, behavior, thoughts, and emotions to support your friendship goals and improve social success.
Determination – The ability to manage adversity while keeping up your belief that the current state can change with the addition of skills, grit, and courage in order to improve social success.

Problem Solving – The ability to find fair solutions to social problems using creative and knowledgeable ideas and improve social success.
Confidence – The ability to see oneself as skilled, effective, resourceful, and reliant based on interpersonal evidence and improve social success.
Mastery – The ability to review, demonstrate, and teach social skills to peers and improve social success.


These six umbrella skills are broken down into five approaches to learning. As educators we know that children learn differently. Our five approaches give different learners different opportunities to learn the same material and others the opportunity to reinforce the learning from another perspective. Our five approaches are:

Me – How do these skills relate to me as a unique individual? For example, my regulation skills are determined by my natural tendencies and challenges.
Energy – How do these skills relate to my energy? For example, my mindfulness skills influence my ability to be in my best zone.
Emotion – How do these skills relate to my feelings? For example, my determination skills are affected by my fear, anger, and happiness.
Thoughts – How do these skills relate to my thoughts? For example, my problem-solving skills are prompted by my self-talk.
Behaviors – How do these skills relate to my actions? For example, my confidence is realized through my social risk taking.


These approaches lend structure to our 30 lessons designed to layer learning while we reinforce basic interpersonal and life skills. As with Casey’s Kids, we reward, model, and coach kids each session to show skills including: giving eye contact, greeting each other by name, sharing, being flexible, apologizing, compromising, using patience, being inclusive, communicating, listening, respecting personal space, calm energy, staying focused, following directions, participating in conversations and activities and more.


The 30 Lessons

Skill 1: Regulation
Lesson 01 – ME: Rules of our club
Lesson 02 – ENERGY: Inertia!
Lesson 03 – EMOTIONS: How do I feel?
Lesson 04 – THOUGHTS: Mind-Reading!
Lesson 05 – BEHAVIORS: My Best Self!

 Skill 2: Mindfulness
Lesson 06 – ME: WAKE UP!
Lesson 07 – ENERGY: Energy Awareness
Lesson 08 – EMOTION: HAPPY People Have More Fun!
Lesson 09 – THOUGHTS: Who’s Narrating Your Story?
Lesson 10 – BEHAVIORS: Being In The Moment!

Skills 3: Determination
Lesson 11 – ME: Who Are You?
Lesson 12 – ENERGY: Projecting Energy
Lesson 13 – EMOTIONS: Empathy
Lesson 14 – THOUGHTS: You Are What You Think!
Lesson 15 – BEHAVIORS: Your Public VS Private Self

Skills 4: Problem Solving
Lesson 16 – ME: Friends and Foes
Lesson 17 – ENERGY: Frustration Tolerance
Lesson 18 – EMOTION: Calm Down
Lesson 19 – THOUGHTS: Brainstorming!
Lesson 20 – BEHAVIORS: Win-Win Communication!

Skills 5: Confidence
Lesson 21 – ME: Friendship Bill of Rights!
Lesson 22 – ENERGY: Reciprocity: the give and take of energy
Lesson 23 – EMOTIONS: Speak Up!
Lesson 24 – THOUGHTS: Positive Affirmations
Lesson 25 – BEHAVIORS: Act As IF

Skills 6: Mastery
Lesson 26 – ME: Kids teach!
Lesson 27 – ENERGY: Kids teach!
Lesson 28 – EMOTIONS: Kids teach!
Lesson 29 – THOUGHTS: Kids teach!
Lesson 30 – BEHAVIORS: Graduation!


Finally, we provide an assessment at the beginning, the middle, and at the end of the year. This assessment measures our observations of growth and change over the 30-lesson program. We hope this report offers parents a helpful measurement of development and pinpoints areas of continued social needs.